At least it was just Starbucks

While im still not ready to dive into my two recent cross border dates (im still trying to wrap my head around the whole thing), i did have a first date on Saturday night. It was a spur of the moment thing with a girl i had been e-mailing, and we decided to get together at Starbucks.

I could tell pretty early on that she wasnt the gal for me. Don't get me wrong, she was pretty, somewhat funny, successful and stable, and had pretty good taste in music and films, but there was just something about her that made me know right away that she wasnt really the girl for me. I think maybe it was some of her reactions to things i said, or some topics that she seemed a bit closed minded about.

Anyways, the weird thing was that it was almost preferable to have a bad date. That may be poor word choice, it wasnt really a bad date, i had a good time. I guess i just mean that i left the date without thinking there was any potential. Somehow that made the date better or easier because i didnt have to fret and wonder if the potential would ever be realised, or wonder what i would have to do to make that happen.

Maybe ive just been burned too much lately by potential that falls apart without warning. It wasnt long ago that that feeling of potential after a date was i was hoping the most for. Now i kinda dread it cause im always wondering when its gonna reveal itself as nothing more than a facade. I dont want to be a cynical dater. Hard to see how that could be successful.

I have a friend who tells me that i attach too quickly to people. They are probably right, but i dont know how else to be. I dont know what its like to hang back and be casual, especially when dating. Dont get me wrong, when im single, im single and try not to force committed relationship stuff before it happens naturally. Thats one of the reasons ive tried to keep dating new people, even when i date someone super promising. But once you decide to give it a try, i dont know how to be in that situation except to try and be all in.

Looks like i have another first date coming up this weekend on Sunday. Ill let you know how it goes. I dont really have a gut feeling about this one. We have only chatted a little bit up to this point, certainly not enough for me to get a good feel of the situation. Ill keep you guys posted.

I also saw Quantum of Solace on Saturday. I know a lot of people didnt like it, but i did. Sure, the action was obviously influenced a great deal by the Bourne movies, but once you got past that, and if you were paying attention, there was a pretty interesting story there. The only problem was that they didnt hit you over the head with it, and if you didnt focus between the action, you would miss the subtleties of the story.